Can’t Make Myself Cum

For some reason I can’t cum. I’ve [tried] many many times but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t want to require my partner to do something I can’t do myself but I can’t for some reason. help??

1 Comment

  1. Hi,
    Someone else has the same problem as you so I will just copy and paste what I comment !

    I used to have the same problem as you. I couldn’t have an orgasm with my bf or even by myself… I had no feeling whatsoever while masturbating and I feel guilty doing it. But one day I decided that I want to know what an orgasm feels like so I started my journey. You should explore yourself more and learn more about sex and how you feel about it. So what I did is: listening or watching to more sex related content ( podcasts, YouTube videos, websites…) not porn but actual people talking about their struggles and sexuality. I really liked the ‘ How cum’ podcast. Listening to all this peoble talking openly about sex and masturbation makes it more and more a natural thing to hear about, talk about and eventually do.
    What I also did is actually see a therapist. I started seeing the therapist after month of listening to the podcast. Because at first I felt weird talking about sex to a stranger but really .. listening to that kind of podcasts made me subconsciously open to finally talk about it to someone and seek help. I realized I was not mentally open to sex and It felt like something I had to do more that something I wanted to do.. and that was the problem. So I worked on it with my therapist and I looked at and touched my self more. You know ? Because I realized I didn’t know my body like I should.
    So yeah this is what I did and it really helped I can finally masturbate without feeling weird or guilty or shameful… and I finally had an orgasm!
    Also If your issue is not mental but you just don’t know how to get there you can try the womanizer (worked for me). There is a lot of different things to do.. you might have a kink you don’t know about, or you might have a disability or you just need some more time… either way you shoul open your mind, learn more and explore as much as you can. Try new thing by yourself or with your bf. I really recommend the ‘how cum’ podcast!
    What I also want to add is: you don’t have to have an orgasm… after trying and working on it you might find out that it’s just not gonna happen.. And that’s okay, everyone is different, don’t blame yourself or feel like a alien. The more important thing is self love !
    i wish the best for you!
    Ps: I’m French so excuse me if I did some mistakes.


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