Be A Man About It

I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year and in the past four months he’s brought it to my attention that we aren’t having enough sex (a few times throughout the week). I really love him, and have been having a hard time explaining the reason behind why I’m basically not giving him enough sex. It’s not that I don’t want to have sex with him, but there’s small things about him that sometimes kills my sexual attraction towards him (ie. being a man and handling man business at all times). So how should I address how I really feel without making him feel less of a man?


  1. I feel like its ok to tell him how you feel. I mean he probably has no problem telling you that he isn’t getting enough sex. Explain to him that for you sex isn’t just physical for you, but there has to be an emotional and mental attraction leading up to it. If he wants to be a better partner he will be receptive to your concerns. Relationships are about compromise….if you’re willing to have more sex then he has to be willing to be ‘more of a man’ PS: you should probably give him clear and reasonable ideas/expectations of what it is to me more of a man

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  2. 🤔 maybe you dont really love him as much as you think. No one is perfect, but the things you don’t like about him should never kill your sexual attraction towards him. That just means you’re just not that into him. If it’s only been a year and you hardly want to have sex now, what do you think will happen in the future when there are times you can’t stand each other? Honestly, everyone’s definition of being a “man” is different, and if the man he is isn’t the man you’re looking for then it’s time to move on and stop wasting time. You can of course express your concerns, but trying to change someone into the person you desire them to be in order to be sexually attracted to them won’t work. Never in the history of man. Best of wishes!!!


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