I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years. In the beginning, the sex was great and happened frequently! But for the past year or so, it’s been almost non-existent. I’ve asked myself why and the only answer that makes sense is that I’m not turned on by him anymore. We’ve both gained a bit of weight since we met but he gets a boner by just kissing me!
I love him a lot and I’ve expressed to him that my attraction to him isn’t the same as it use to be but he didn’t really say much, and hasn’t made any effort to lose weight. I want to want to have sex with him and I’ve even tried eating those chocolates that are supposed to turn you on and nothing works. I’ve already gone as far as forcing myself to have sex with him when I didn’t want to but I can’t do it to myself anymore. I keep having sex dreams about him and I and they are HOTTTT… but then when I wake up I don’t bother to try with him because I know it won’t be as good as it was in the dream. I feel guilty and I need advice!