Too Fat to F*ck

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years. In the beginning, the sex was great and happened frequently! But for the past year or so, it’s been almost non-existent. I’ve asked myself why and the only answer that makes sense is that I’m not turned on by him anymore. We’ve both gained a bit of weight since we met but he gets a boner by just kissing me!

I love him a lot and I’ve expressed to him that my attraction to him isn’t the same as it use to be but he didn’t really say much, and hasn’t made any effort to lose weight. I want to want to have sex with him and I’ve even tried eating those chocolates that are supposed to turn you on and nothing works. I’ve already gone as far as forcing myself to have sex with him when I didn’t want to but I can’t do it to myself anymore. I keep having sex dreams about him and I and they are HOTTTT… but then when I wake up I don’t bother to try with him because I know it won’t be as good as it was in the dream. I feel guilty and I need advice!


  1. You could try to work out with him to help encourage him. Maybe express that it’s getting worse and you don’t want to end the relationship. I kind of feel like my partner isn’t that attracted to me cuz I gained weight from medical issues and it’s really hard to get it off but I know how much my relationship means to me so I’ll still keep trying cuz ultimately I want to please him.


  2. You need to understand the man’s ego is everything and when you told him that he “HEARD YOU” However you need to also find ways to get him in shape on the low. Which means changing the food around the house, changing that night time eating ( or exchange it with some fruit or yogurt etc) Also you need to understand that sex is a major part of any relationship, soooo think about spicing things up with adding some porn-watching together, threeways, spontaneous thrills etc.. Hope this helps


  3. If you are on birth control or a new brand of it that could definitely be a factor in your loss of sexual attraction. Or if you’re pregnant.


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