New To The Sex Thing

Sooo… earlier this year [2019]I lost my virginity. I’m 24 years old and I was just ready to experience sex. Lost it rather quickly to a guy I had been talking to for like a month but it led to a 8 month relationship, which was cool. Our sex life was pretty good and we were very open with each other other. Fast forward, I’m single now and so I’ve been casually dating. I’m not ready for the emotional weight load of a relationship, but I want to explore more in terms of my sexuality. Problem is….

I’ve had sex with a few guys and and it seems like they switch up almost immediately. Am I the problem? Or is this normally how men act after sex? I’m a pretty confident person and I feel like this is starting to mess with my self-esteem a bit. Men have always treated me well and I’m used to them laboring for me. So I’m questioning if I’m giving them bad sex or if it’s something to do with me that they’re not disclosing and idek why considering all I WANT is sex! (And maybe a little attention)

1 Comment

  1. Congrats on finally losing your virginity. But after the first time, you will still be experiencing a lot of “first times” as it relates to intimacy. Each new person will be provide a different experience. It’s unfortunate that being cool and causal doesn’t always guarantee that guys will reciprocate. Some of them will be assholes and will mistreat women who are sexually liberated but that says more about them than it does about you. The only advice I can offer is to slow down. Even if you only just want a hookup with these guys, get to know them better before jumping into bed. Look out for red flags such as how they speak about women they aren’t intimate with. Casual sex situations still require mutual respect. If it’s not there find some other dick. Or maybe you aren’t cutout for causal sex at all and would be better suited for a relationship. It’s your choice to decide what’s best for you as long as you’re safe.


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